World of Expectations

Expectations, the word itself is a burden, right? How do we stop expecting? This is pragmatically impossible! Believe me, we don’t expect by our will, it’s our nature which forces us to expect from others.We actually live in a world of expectation since inception. Remember, during our childhood, when our parents used to return from the market, we expected a bar of chocolate or a toy? And then eventually one-day when our parent forgets to bring, we used to get hurt by that particular “reality” which we were not expecting! This is the first time maybe when we faced the transformation of reality being different from our expectations. But do we stop expecting from parents after that? The answer is 'No' for most of us. And when surprisingly one-day, we get an expensive toy we dreamt of , it feels like we are on the top of the world because that reality is beyond our expectations.

This is a very simple example which I have chosen to explain. Moreover, as we grow older we face a lot of these issues in our life. That may be in families, friends, relationships, appearances, and even in particular thing etc. But again how do we stop expecting? Everybody is not a sane. The point is when we are expecting we are hypothetically forcing and merging things unconsciously, we make an image of it and start implementing it with different probabilities, and when reality sometimes doesn't match with any of the probable positive expectations, we seriously  jeopardize which leads to deep depression and anxiety.

. “Expectation is a root of all heartache”

― William Shakespeare

The complication is that we are not allowing the future to unfold naturally, we don’t allow the person ( whom we are expecting from) to behave the way they want to, rather than we force our own hypothetical expectations into it. Our expectations can get the better of us when we expect more than what is realistic in a given situation. We might expect our partners to live up to what we see in romance films, our jobs to be idealized versions we had as children or even our lives to match up to what we see on social media. This can create significant stress when they don't match up to reality. Social media have an impeccable contribution to this: we compare our own worst moments (those not deemed to be shareable online) to others' best moments, which very often are filtered to seem perfect. We may not even realize this mismatched comparison.

The biggest transformation in our lives will occur when we start accepting the realities. In fact, while we believe that the ideal job, perfect relationship, or stellar bank account will change our happiness levels permanently, they may only give us a temporary boost of joy—it is surprisingly short-lived. It seems that our expectations can confuse us into thinking that our goals will bring us much more than they actually do, so we often pursue the wrong goals.​

However, everybody does not have a super luxurious life, healthy relationships, and an admirable job. But that doesn’t mean we stop, all we need to do is pull our self-up and simply move on. That’s life! Accepting something good that happened to us is also a way of surviving, where as expectation is useless if we don’t really work for our future. Nothing comes fast and easy, what matters in the long run, is hard work and dedication.
And of course, doing something good for humanity always help.

Cheers!

Md Zaman Khan